You and YOUR Gifts

Corinthians 12:7-11, 7. A spiritual gift is given to each of us so we can help each other. 8. To one person the Spirit gives the ability to give wise advice; to another the same Spirit gives a message of special knowledge. 9. The same Spirit gives great faith to another, and to someone else the one Spirit gives the gift of healing. 10. He gives one person the power to perform miracles, and another the ability to prophesy. He gives someone else the ability to discern whether a message is from the Spirit of God or from another spirit. Still another person is given the ability to speak in unknown languages, while another is given the ability to interpret what is being said. 11. It is the one and only Spirit who distributes all these gifts. He alone decides which gift each person should have.

What are your gifts and how are you using them today?

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Southern sweetheart Entrepreneur Dixie McDaniel de Andrade is a speaker who delivers a powerful punch providing inspiration, and how-to solutions to moms of faith. As an author and certified Christian life coach, she founded international coaching company Envision Possibilities to teach other moms to stop settling, tailor make their lives, take action on their dreams all while honoring their own family values! Connect with her on Twitter @CoachDixie or FB: Envision Possibilities

What is YOUR Mission?

mission in lifeGo out and create some magic TODAY with your Mission, as only YOU can! Here’s to all YOUR possibilities!

Are you a women’s ministry or small group leader? Are their members in your group looking to find their purpose and passion to be able to live their mission? If so I can help; with the Find YOUR Beautiful Life 2 day retreat. Contact dixieandrade@hotmail.com for more information.

Being Big in Your Life – If Not Now, When?

It’s the last week of school here in sunny south Florida and while I love,clouds love, love my kids being home and the thought of no homework and no packing lunches I also know that my “me” time will be limited. So before the year ends I took the guilty pleasure of having lunch with a dear friend. While I am on the subject of guilty pleasures I hope you take some time for you too every now and then and don’t feel guilty about it at all!

 So my friend and I started to discuss my recent workshop on spiritual gifts and real world personalities and how the most important thing in life is your priorities and how to focus on them. We started to talk about that little dash on your one day headstone after you are gone and what we wanted it to mean to both of us and our legacy. I know what you are probably thinking: that’s a pretty heavy conversation for a fun lunch but it was actually exciting because we were dreaming together about life. We talked about what we had done so far in life and what we still wanted to do and we were getting really passionate and happy about the future. I hope no matter where you are in your life that you are excited about your future and what’s important to you. I’ve written an article about that little dash and I hope it will get you to think about being “big” in your life the timing could never be better because as the title suggests if not now, when?

Being Big in Your Life – If Not Now, When?

Picture a graveyard. Under the big oak tree in the far corner, there’s a granite headstone. Look closer. See the name engraved? Yep, it’s yours.

So you’re sitting here, looking at your own headstone. There’s your year of birth, and the year you—heaven forbid—pass. And between them, there’s a little, coy hyphen. 

Now, here’s the good news: that hyphen is what God gives you to use for his glory.

ON BEING BIG

Let’s take a moment to think analytically about that hyphen. There are two things that anyone who aspires to be big must face. The first is knowing what you want to do. Or, in the words of poet Mary Oliver: “Tell me, what it is you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” (We’ll get to the second in a moment.)

Determining what you want out of life—your career, relationships and your free time—is a surprisingly hard process for many of us. It’s much easier to abide by the rules and plans of others than to look within ourselves and see clearly what we are meant to—and would really, really enjoy with the whole of our being—do.

Here are 4 starting points for discovering your brand of being big:

What are your threads? Everything you’ve done and loved up to this point is a thread running through your life. Those threads are always with you, and you can choose to pick them up again at any time. Adored math as a kid, but your parents pushed you into sales? Maybe it’s time to take some classes and explore. 

Who makes you jealous?  While envy is not necessarily a good thing, Envy can be a way to unearth some of our big, deep desires. Who have you been a little jealous of recently? Oprah? A Friend? A Colleague? Another Super Mom? Maybe it’s actually a clue to your being big.

What have you always wanted to do? Complete this sentence: “If money and time were no object, I would totally want to…” Work in Paris? Market my invention? You could start today with a language tape or learning about the patent process.

What are your forbidden fruits? Sometimes we tell ourselves that certain things are off limits, when really, it’s just a mirage created by our limiting beliefs. What seems off-limits to you but might be great fun if it weren’t “forbidden” in your mind? Maybe it’s a God whisper asking you to play a little bigger……  Acting in a play? Buying a telescope? Writing a book?

THE SECOND THING

Once you are firmly pointed in the direction of your own bigness, you will undoubtedly meet the second thing about being big. As any hero will tell you, once you start heading in the direction of being big…once you take action toward your goals…the second thing undoubtedly shows up. And that thing is fear.

Here’s the secret about being big: you still get the socks scared off you on a regular basis. (Perhaps even more often!) But it no longer stops you. Spooks you, yes absolutely. Makes your knees go weak, without a doubt.  But when you’re living big and having faith, fear ceases to be a reason to quit.

Because you’ve got big things you want to do with that little hyphen of yours.

So I ask you are you living big? What does that even mean to you? For me it means helping as many women as possible live their perfectly balanced dream life full of faith while living mine as well! Are you next on my list?

 Until next time here’s to all your possibilities!

Southern sweetheart Entrepreneur Dixie McDaniel de Andrade is a speaker who delivers a powerful punch providing inspiration and how-to solutions to women of faith. As an author, certified coach and life/balance expert, she founded international coaching company Envision Possibilities to teach other women to stop settling, balance their unique lives, take action on their dreams all while honoring their own family values!  Dixie is a world-class trainer; having begun her career in international development with the World Bank and spending over a decade working in training and development with multi-national non-profits and governments, speaking and training international audiences from over 100 countries. She speaks Spanish with a southern twang, holds a MA in International Communication, is mom to twin boys age 5, wife to her fun Ecuadorian husband, Co-President of Femfessionals Miami and  loves to volunteer with non-profits she holds dear. Find her on Facebook at Envision Possibilities and Twitter @CoachDixie

 

Author’s content used under license, © 2011 Claire Communications

Self-Quiz: Are You “Too Busy”?

beach ameliaTime is the great equalizer. Everybody gets the same amount: 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour. We can’t save time or accumulate or rearrange it. We can’t turn it off or on. It can’t be replaced.

 But these days, it seems as if the lament of not having enough time has become a national anthem. Everywhere people find themselves constantly in a rush, over-booked and over-scheduled with no time off. Life is accompanied by the ongoing stress of not enough time. And sometimes doing too much and being too busy can be a way of forgetting yourself.

 

 Though it may not always seem so, how we fill our time and how we spend it is our choice. Answer the following questions to discover if you’re caught up in the “too-busy” cycle. 

 

  1. I constantly find myself doing “urgent” things and trying to catch up.
  2. I allow myself to drift into obligations when I don’t know how much time or energy they’ll require.
  3. I find myself running from when I get up in the morning until I go to bed at night. I’m always tired and never feel like I accomplished enough.
  4. I seldom schedule a day off for myself and when I do, I tend to fill it with activities.
  5. I don’t make time for “self-care” activities: physical exercise, nurturing or “pampering” myself, cultural stimulation, spiritual well-being, learning something new, playing, or simply doing nothing.
  6. I seldom have time to do the things I really love.
  7. My work and project areas are cluttered with “I’ll look at this later” stacks and “to-do” piles.
  8. I often miscalculate how long certain activities will take.
  9. I often miss deadlines or work long hours to meet a deadline.
  10. I respond to interruptions such as phone calls, faxes, email, beepers and pagers, and allow them to take me off track.
  11. I try to keep things in my head rather than making lists. If I do make a daily “to-do” list, it’s impossible to complete in a day.
  12. I tend to move from one urgent thing to the next, rather than working toward specific goals and objectives.
  13. I find myself constantly wishing I had more time or projecting an imaginary future when I have more time, making comments such as “as soon as…” or “next year…”
  14. I spend time running errands and rushing because I didn’t plan well enough.
  15. I spend time doing things I could pay someone else to do.
  16. I often do things because I “should,” or continue to do things that no longer fit who I am.
  17. Other people complain that my schedule doesn’t allow enough time for them.

 

I hope you will write out your answers and really take a look at where you want to make some changes and where you are happy. I think this will help you take back your time and live the life of your dreams and as always I am always here to help. Here’s to all your possibilities!

 

Southern sweetheart Entrepreneur Dixie McDaniel de Andrade is a speaker who delivers a powerful punch providing inspiration and how-to solutions to women of faith. As an author, certified coach and life/balance expert, she founded international coaching company Envision Possibilities to teach other women to stop settling, balance their unique lives, take action on their dreams all while honoring their own family values!  Dixie is a world-class trainer; having begun her career in international development with the World Bank and spending over a decade working in training and development with multi-national non-profits and governments, speaking and training international audiences from over 100 countries. She speaks Spanish with a southern twang, holds a MA in International Communication, is mom to twin boys age 5, wife to her fun Ecuadorian husband, Co-President of Femfessionals Miami and  loves to volunteer with non-profits she holds dear. Find her on Facebook at Envision Possibilities and Twitter @CoachDixie

 

 

 

Author’s content used under license, © 2008 Claire Communications

 

I Am That Mom

I remember when I was the world’s best mom. My babies slept through the night. When they cried it was so soft and did not disturb anyone. As they turned into toddlers there were barely any terrible twos or threes… no real tantrums. They loved to eat all the great vegetables I made and never asked for candy. My house always looked pristine and the laundry never piled up, the beds were always made, and surprise guests were always welcome. I had balance down pat between work and family. There was no problem with potty training and bed time sign me up; I was like the child whisperer!  When we went out to eat our kids never played with electronics they colored or talked to us.  I was so crafty I could make anything out of popsicles sticks. Everybody wanted me for a mom.

Then…… I actually had children AND

I am that mom, who was blessed with loud, wonderful twin boys….that cried a lot and loudly

I am that mom who one time accidently in the middle of the night put the baby swings on level five to get the babies back to sleep and then fell asleep and left them swinging but blessedly sleeping all night

I am that mom who spent many nights sleeping outside the bedroom door on the floor just to be able to call out “it’s ok, mommy is right here”

I am that mom who was not invited back to a play date after my kids threw a tantrum to beat all tantrums….that’s ok we have other friends : )

I am that mom so traumatized by potty training we can’t talk about it

I am that mom who has lost it (yep totally and utterly had an out of body experience) MANY times over

I am that mom who tries not to break down in the grocery store and buy what my children are begging for but who sometimes does

I am that mom who stares at Pinterest  longingly but doesn’t have a crafty bone in her body (sorry mom and Grandma Hazel)

I am that mom who runs a business and a household and tries for balance and sometimes fails and I’m learning to be ok with that

I am that mom who really, truly wants to be a morning person but I’m just not

I am that mom who makes peanut butter and jelly for breakfast, lunch and dinner because eating something is better than nothing

I am that mom who hears the experts say just don’t give them anything then they will eat and I say “yep I hear you, but turns out sometimes they will just starve themselves”

I am that mom who leaps over piles of laundry (good exercise) and who only opens the door a fraction for surprise guests

I am that mom who wears a baseball cap because who really has time to wash hair ALL the time!

I am that mom who takes on volunteer leadership positions and then makes hard unpopular decisions because they are the right thing to do

I am that mom who has children with special needs and I’m ok with that

I am that mom who prays daily but is a sinner

I am that mom who writes a blog and runs a business about faith, family, dreams and becoming a mompreneur and sometimes my faith is as small as a mustard seed

I am that mom who loves her children more than anything in the world but sometimes wants to change her name from “MOM”

I am that mom who wanted everyone to like her but has realized that’s just not possible and I’m learning to be ok with that

I am that mom who says halleluiah for electronics because then my husband and I can share a meal out with our children (yep totally ok with that, judge me if you will I’ve learned not to)

I am a mom who has given and gotten “the look” from other moms who are judging…oh how I have prayed for that single offense many times over

I am that mom who even though totally exhausted at night will read a book to my boys because you never get that time back

I am that mom who is trying to blend a Christian household with a non-Christian world, and though it’s hard I will succeed

I am a that mom who is doing the best I can and my best is not perfect and that’s ok with me

Who are you?

God made you unique with your own goals and dreams and my prayer for you is to be ok with who you are!

Until next time here’s to all your Possibilities!

Southern sweetheart Entrepreneur Dixie McDaniel de Andrade is a speaker who delivers a powerful punch providing inspiration, and how-to solutions to moms of faith. As an author and certified coach, she founded international coaching company Envision Possibilities to teach other moms to stop settling, tailor make their lives, take action on their dreams all while honoring their own family values!  Dixie is a world-class trainer; having begun her career in international development with the World Bank and spending over a decade working in training and development with multi-national non-profits and governments, speaking and training international audiences from over 100 countries. Envision Possibilities is in business to help Moms worldwide find balance, make money, start their own endeavors (if that’s their heart’s desire), and to live happily through faith. Connect with her on Facebook at Envision Possibilities or Twitter @CoachDixie and sign up for her newsletter on our home page.

The Debate: Can I Have It All?

Can I have it all? No, today I cannot…..why not you ask?

I got up early, (and if you follow me you know I am not a morning person) spent some time in prayer asked God to bless my sweet boys (including hubby) myself and our day. I packed lunches, got myself ready, got the boys out of bed, hurried them through the process of getting to the bathroom, getting dressed and then breakfast, grabbed a cup of coffee, threw on my rain boots and rain coat as it is pouring today in South Florida, left the boys with their dad to finish up getting ready (man I hope he brushed their teeth!)

 7:20 I rushed off to the school for an early morning meeting because I am the room parent.

8:10 I met the boys at the gate to the school with their dad, kissed their rain soaked noses and rushed them into our uncovered school as it poured! Splashed my way home, even though I got drenched I enjoyed the moment in nature, got to my home office shook out my hair like a wet dog (so pretty) and 8:20 sat down to work on my latest book proposal.

I will continue this work pace until I pick up at 1:50 and then some quality time with the boys, homework help, more work for me at the computer…. at 5:30 the babysitter arrives so I can rush back to the school for parents night and then home for a quick take out supper, bath and bed for my boys,  

8:00pm I have a deadline with a project I am pitching so I will work some more tonight…………….that’s it in a nutshell for me today.

So, no today I will not do laundry, pick up the house (poor babysitter when she sees the mess) I will not cook a home cooked meal, my husband and I will not get to share a glass of wine and enjoy a conversation that is not about children. There will be no ME time or gym time…… I WILL drink a pot of coffee (very unhealthy)…. This blog will be grammatically incorrect and not perfect but posted anyway because Wednesday is my day I promise to my readers…….today my priorities are my children and work………….so no today there is not time to have it all…………..

Tomorrow is girl’s night out and Friday night is date night…. I’ve got some time in there for house cleaning and all my boys help, and I’ve got my plans for a home cooked meal before the girls night out…..tomorrow after school drop off I have a fun zumba class, and some me time this weekend  to read a good book just because, Friday I’ve got a volunteer appointment to fulfill and I cannot wait because it brings me great joy to read to special needs children… so while today, no way can I have it all………..in my wild and crazy roller coaster life  MY life is full and I am a women who has it all because I’ve learned to say no to other’s priorities and yes to mine.

Having it all is not a one size fits all….. this is mine…..are you having it all your way? Are you sure of your priorities and saying yes to your life?

Here’s to all YOUR possibilities!

 

Southern sweetheart Entrepreneur Dixie McDaniel de Andrade is a speaker who delivers a powerful punch providing inspiration, and how-to solutions. As an author and certified coach, she founded international coaching company Envision Possibilities to teach other moms to stop settling, tailor make their lives, take action on their dreams all while honoring their own family values!  Dixie is a world-class trainer; having begun her career in international development with the World Bank and spending over a decade working in training and development with multi-national non-profits and governments, speaking and training international audiences from over 100 countries. Envision Possibilities is in business to help Moms worldwide find balance, make money, start their own endeavors (if they want to), and to live happily. Connect with her on Facebook at Envision Possibilities or Twitter @CoachDixie and sign up for her newsletter on our home page.

Training Wheels, Pigtails, Setting Goals and Action!

 Do you remember your first training wheels? Remember when you rode along using those training wheels not a care in the world, and the ride was so smooth? What happened when the training wheels came off? A few shaky starts and stops, a few falls, maybe a scraped knee? What if you had never taken those training wheels off-whew what a smooth ride you may have always had, but I ask you what fun would that have been, no risk?  I remember wanting to ride that “big girl” pink bike with the banana seat and flower front basket without training wheels-I visualized it! I saw myself riding down the street looking cool, wind blowing in my hair, ok probably that would have been pigtails and not so cool but that wasn’t my visual  (smile here) anyway this visual would not happen until I had a plan and took off those wheels. Mountain climbers visualize reaching the summit before they climb and they have a good plan in place, ship captains have a navigation plan in place before they set sail, adjustments may have to be made along the way to correct course but sitting and waiting to start will never get them to their goal. Most people feel they are capable of a life far more enriching then the one they are currently living, but they don’t know how to get it. The truth is our success in life is in direct proportion to our clarity of purpose, and our level of passion, belief, and action. Studies have revealed time and time again that high performers all have a clear vision and goal of what they want.  The majority of people who have achieved a high level of success in their life developed their success through utilizing the same basic powerful principles through visualizing, planning, and action, I LOVE to teach this concept to my clients. What aspect in your life need the training wheels to come off? It’s the middle of the year for 2012 how can you end the year strong and make it your best yet when you visualize your summit, navigation course or goal? Make a plan and take action! Envision all of your Possibilities!  

 

Envision Possibilities is a coaching and consulting firm, womenpreneurs and executive moms from around the world seek out Dixie’s talents to teach them how to manage their priorities, enjoy their family, and do what they love most. Her practical step-by-step approach and southern charm are the two elements that make her different and why clients are singing her praises. As a certified life coach, inspirational speaker and featured author in Connection: The New Currency,  she is an authentic connector who is passionate about helping women remember the choices they have in life. Companies seek out her services to retain and promote exceptional talent through coaching/consulting. Connect with Dixie on Twitter at @CoachDixie or on Facebook at Envision Possibilities