It’s the last week of school here in sunny south Florida and while I love, love, love my kids being home and the thought of no homework and no packing lunches I also know that my “me” time will be limited. So before the year ends I took the guilty pleasure of having lunch with a dear friend. While I am on the subject of guilty pleasures I hope you take some time for you too every now and then and don’t feel guilty about it at all!
So my friend and I started to discuss my recent workshop on spiritual gifts and real world personalities and how the most important thing in life is your priorities and how to focus on them. We started to talk about that little dash on your one day headstone after you are gone and what we wanted it to mean to both of us and our legacy. I know what you are probably thinking: that’s a pretty heavy conversation for a fun lunch but it was actually exciting because we were dreaming together about life. We talked about what we had done so far in life and what we still wanted to do and we were getting really passionate and happy about the future. I hope no matter where you are in your life that you are excited about your future and what’s important to you. I’ve written an article about that little dash and I hope it will get you to think about being “big” in your life the timing could never be better because as the title suggests if not now, when?
Being Big in Your Life – If Not Now, When?
Picture a graveyard. Under the big oak tree in the far corner, there’s a granite headstone. Look closer. See the name engraved? Yep, it’s yours.
So you’re sitting here, looking at your own headstone. There’s your year of birth, and the year you—heaven forbid—pass. And between them, there’s a little, coy hyphen.
Now, here’s the good news: that hyphen is what God gives you to use for his glory.
ON BEING BIG
Let’s take a moment to think analytically about that hyphen. There are two things that anyone who aspires to be big must face. The first is knowing what you want to do. Or, in the words of poet Mary Oliver: “Tell me, what it is you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” (We’ll get to the second in a moment.)
Determining what you want out of life—your career, relationships and your free time—is a surprisingly hard process for many of us. It’s much easier to abide by the rules and plans of others than to look within ourselves and see clearly what we are meant to—and would really, really enjoy with the whole of our being—do.
Here are 4 starting points for discovering your brand of being big:
What are your threads? Everything you’ve done and loved up to this point is a thread running through your life. Those threads are always with you, and you can choose to pick them up again at any time. Adored math as a kid, but your parents pushed you into sales? Maybe it’s time to take some classes and explore.
Who makes you jealous? While envy is not necessarily a good thing, Envy can be a way to unearth some of our big, deep desires. Who have you been a little jealous of recently? Oprah? A Friend? A Colleague? Another Super Mom? Maybe it’s actually a clue to your being big.
What have you always wanted to do? Complete this sentence: “If money and time were no object, I would totally want to…” Work in Paris? Market my invention? You could start today with a language tape or learning about the patent process.
What are your forbidden fruits? Sometimes we tell ourselves that certain things are off limits, when really, it’s just a mirage created by our limiting beliefs. What seems off-limits to you but might be great fun if it weren’t “forbidden” in your mind? Maybe it’s a God whisper asking you to play a little bigger…… Acting in a play? Buying a telescope? Writing a book?
THE SECOND THING
Once you are firmly pointed in the direction of your own bigness, you will undoubtedly meet the second thing about being big. As any hero will tell you, once you start heading in the direction of being big…once you take action toward your goals…the second thing undoubtedly shows up. And that thing is fear.
Here’s the secret about being big: you still get the socks scared off you on a regular basis. (Perhaps even more often!) But it no longer stops you. Spooks you, yes absolutely. Makes your knees go weak, without a doubt. But when you’re living big and having faith, fear ceases to be a reason to quit.
Because you’ve got big things you want to do with that little hyphen of yours.
So I ask you are you living big? What does that even mean to you? For me it means helping as many women as possible live their perfectly balanced dream life full of faith while living mine as well! Are you next on my list?
Until next time here’s to all your possibilities!
Southern sweetheart Entrepreneur Dixie McDaniel de Andrade is a speaker who delivers a powerful punch providing inspiration and how-to solutions to women of faith. As an author, certified coach and life/balance expert, she founded international coaching company Envision Possibilities to teach other women to stop settling, balance their unique lives, take action on their dreams all while honoring their own family values! Dixie is a world-class trainer; having begun her career in international development with the World Bank and spending over a decade working in training and development with multi-national non-profits and governments, speaking and training international audiences from over 100 countries. She speaks Spanish with a southern twang, holds a MA in International Communication, is mom to twin boys age 5, wife to her fun Ecuadorian husband, Co-President of Femfessionals Miami and loves to volunteer with non-profits she holds dear. Find her on Facebook at Envision Possibilities and Twitter @CoachDixie
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