Jesus is lost……

“Baby Jesus is lost” that was my comment to my friend as she called to ask me to a Christmas breakfast.

“Well Dixie, does this happen often, do you often lose Jesus?”

She was asking in jest but actually my baby Jesus from my manger scene was missing and it was driving me crazy trying to find him in all my many Christmas decoration boxes!

But I must confess sometimes in my life I do feel l like I’ve lost Jesus especially in the hustle and bustle of the holidays. Am I the only one out there who feels like this? snow-country

The truth is Jesus is never lost and he never leaves me but this little episode reminded me to stop and take a moment to ask him to forgive me when I lose him. Yes I did find him for my manger but I can’t help but wonder if this was God’s way of gently reminding me that Jesus is the reason for the season.

Does anyone else out there need a reminder……give yourself some grace, I know God does! May you enjoy the holiday to the fullest and when the stress comes on may you remember this beautiful birthday is once a year AND Jesus is the reason for the season and it is a beautiful special time, so enjoy it to the fullest and be blessed by not losing Jesus but finding him shining in your heart and others hearts as well.

Merry Merry Christmas and here’s to all your possibilities!

You and YOUR Gifts

Corinthians 12:7-11, 7. A spiritual gift is given to each of us so we can help each other. 8. To one person the Spirit gives the ability to give wise advice; to another the same Spirit gives a message of special knowledge. 9. The same Spirit gives great faith to another, and to someone else the one Spirit gives the gift of healing. 10. He gives one person the power to perform miracles, and another the ability to prophesy. He gives someone else the ability to discern whether a message is from the Spirit of God or from another spirit. Still another person is given the ability to speak in unknown languages, while another is given the ability to interpret what is being said. 11. It is the one and only Spirit who distributes all these gifts. He alone decides which gift each person should have.

What are your gifts and how are you using them today?

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Southern sweetheart Entrepreneur Dixie McDaniel de Andrade is a speaker who delivers a powerful punch providing inspiration, and how-to solutions to moms of faith. As an author and certified Christian life coach, she founded international coaching company Envision Possibilities to teach other moms to stop settling, tailor make their lives, take action on their dreams all while honoring their own family values! Connect with her on Twitter @CoachDixie or FB: Envision Possibilities

What is YOUR Mission?

mission in lifeGo out and create some magic TODAY with your Mission, as only YOU can! Here’s to all YOUR possibilities!

Are you a women’s ministry or small group leader? Are their members in your group looking to find their purpose and passion to be able to live their mission? If so I can help; with the Find YOUR Beautiful Life 2 day retreat. Contact dixieandrade@hotmail.com for more information.

Jesus And The Common Core

I’m not a fan of common core education not by a long shot and today one of my sweet twins Lucas socked it to the core in his own way and I could not have been more proud!

 
Our other twin Gabriel is feeling a little down about his “gifted” math. Because of his ASD cloudy sunset faithcondition his brain thinks more logically and not very abstractly (which common core is built for the abstract). So with a test looming tomorrow he is very nervous and anxious. I am working with him on positive affirmations. As we were driving along today he was in the back saying “I am just so afraid I am going to fail, I am very nervous” and I am saying “No, Gabriel you can’t think that way, you are going to do your best and you are going to say I CAN do this.”

 
Then Lucas says from his spot in the back “Gabriel remember what we learned about faith… when Peter was walking on water and he started to lose his faith and sink then Jesus helped him….you just have to have faith and Jesus will help you do well” …..melt my heart….. take that common core! Common core may be the most idiotic thing I have ever encountered and my kids may not ever learn the way the government thinks they should but they know and love Jesus at age 6 and that’s pretty good in my book! And I have faith that God will hear my little boy’s prayer! And mine and yours : )

 
Here’s to all the Possibilities!

Are You Worried About Making A Difference?

No one gets picked for a team and then wants to sit on a bench. Nobody devotes years of service to a company with the idea that what she has done is insignificant. Nobody wants to think that at her funeral, the eulogy will declare that her life didn’t matter.

We want to make a difference, and not just for ourselves. Nobody hopes that at their window to guatmala ipicmemorial someone will stand up and say, “She worked hard to be successful. She did a good job acquiring power and money. She was anxious and driven and self-preoccupied and polite and respectable, and she impressed a lot of people.”

NO! We want to leave the world a little changed. When it’s time to go, we would like for someone to say, “My life is a little richer; my world is a little bigger; I’m a better person because this human being walked the planet awhile. She made a difference. She changed my life. She was the best mom.”

We don’t want to be benchwarmers. We don’t want a life on the sidelines. I don’t mind losing and I don’t have to be the star, but I want to be in the game. How about you? Are you in YOUR game? This desire we have is a wonderful thing. Our hunger for significance is an indicator of who we are and why we were created. Deeper than our need for food or air or water is our need for meaning, our need to know our lives count for something. We are built for meaning. Continue reading

Can I Be On Time Today?

Today’s the day today’s the day I’m finally going to make it on time.  Today’s the day I’m finally leaving the house with 5 minutes to spare… yep today’s the day. Except, sadly…. today was not the day.shoes

Picture this conversation:

Me: “Please, Lucas go get your shoes”…..

Lucas: “I can’t find my shoes”

Me: “Gabriel did you brush your teeth?”

Gabriel: “No” (no follow up just “no” with big puppy dog eyes)

Me: “Lucas look under your bed”

Me: “Gabriel go brush your teeth”

Me: (to myself) “where are my keys, did I feed the dog, what time is it?”

Trying to get out the door….

Lucas: “MOM I want milk”

Me: “Ok, right milk,… sure, where did you put your cup this morning?”

Lucas: “I duuna know” (also with big puppy dog eyes but no follow up)

Me:  (to myself) “Where is my watch….what time is it…..we are going to be late”……and so it goes

And today was not the day! Maybe tomorrow…..

That’s life in the having and doing it all world…. and we have the choice to handle  it with humor and grace or to chuck it all and scream. I have to confess some days I scream but mostly I try to “never let them see me sweat” and make it out the door albeit 5 or 10 minutes late. What about you where do you find your balance in doing it all?

 

Giveaway: I’ve been working with some pretty amazing moms in a program called Light Your Fire and Faith and this is what’s happening for them; they are feeling a little less stuck on the gerbil wheel of life, they are doing things they enjoy, finding more time in a day, asking their bosses for things they have never been brave enough to ask for before, starting new jobs and companies and basically living the life they always dreamed of….I was wondering if you are feeling stressed or stuck right now? And if you might be looking for some guidance on how to do something a little bigger or enjoy your family more? If that sounds like something you’ve been looking for, then I’m giving away a free hour long coaching session with me to someone who comments in the blog post below about your balance. We will randomly draw a name from the comments to see who is our recipient to be well on your way to Light Your Fire and Faith!

 
Envision Possibilities helps smart moms live their life’s purpose with balance, grace and faith. Founder and CEO Dixie McDaniel de Andrade is a mother of special need twins whose husband travels extensively for work. She lives far from family, exercises daily (well tries to anyway), carpools, cooks, rarely cleans and juggles it all with a smile and a sense of humor! Her belief is you can do it too! With Envision Possibilities her intent is to help you live your dreams with balance NOW rather than slipping into the “when/then” syndrome. Through workshops, speaking and life coaching she teaches from Ecclesiastes 11: 4,6  — If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done…Be sure to stay busy and plant a variety of crops, for you never know which will grow — perhaps they all will.

 

 

Being Big in Your Life – If Not Now, When?

It’s the last week of school here in sunny south Florida and while I love,clouds love, love my kids being home and the thought of no homework and no packing lunches I also know that my “me” time will be limited. So before the year ends I took the guilty pleasure of having lunch with a dear friend. While I am on the subject of guilty pleasures I hope you take some time for you too every now and then and don’t feel guilty about it at all!

 So my friend and I started to discuss my recent workshop on spiritual gifts and real world personalities and how the most important thing in life is your priorities and how to focus on them. We started to talk about that little dash on your one day headstone after you are gone and what we wanted it to mean to both of us and our legacy. I know what you are probably thinking: that’s a pretty heavy conversation for a fun lunch but it was actually exciting because we were dreaming together about life. We talked about what we had done so far in life and what we still wanted to do and we were getting really passionate and happy about the future. I hope no matter where you are in your life that you are excited about your future and what’s important to you. I’ve written an article about that little dash and I hope it will get you to think about being “big” in your life the timing could never be better because as the title suggests if not now, when?

Being Big in Your Life – If Not Now, When?

Picture a graveyard. Under the big oak tree in the far corner, there’s a granite headstone. Look closer. See the name engraved? Yep, it’s yours.

So you’re sitting here, looking at your own headstone. There’s your year of birth, and the year you—heaven forbid—pass. And between them, there’s a little, coy hyphen. 

Now, here’s the good news: that hyphen is what God gives you to use for his glory.

ON BEING BIG

Let’s take a moment to think analytically about that hyphen. There are two things that anyone who aspires to be big must face. The first is knowing what you want to do. Or, in the words of poet Mary Oliver: “Tell me, what it is you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” (We’ll get to the second in a moment.)

Determining what you want out of life—your career, relationships and your free time—is a surprisingly hard process for many of us. It’s much easier to abide by the rules and plans of others than to look within ourselves and see clearly what we are meant to—and would really, really enjoy with the whole of our being—do.

Here are 4 starting points for discovering your brand of being big:

What are your threads? Everything you’ve done and loved up to this point is a thread running through your life. Those threads are always with you, and you can choose to pick them up again at any time. Adored math as a kid, but your parents pushed you into sales? Maybe it’s time to take some classes and explore. 

Who makes you jealous?  While envy is not necessarily a good thing, Envy can be a way to unearth some of our big, deep desires. Who have you been a little jealous of recently? Oprah? A Friend? A Colleague? Another Super Mom? Maybe it’s actually a clue to your being big.

What have you always wanted to do? Complete this sentence: “If money and time were no object, I would totally want to…” Work in Paris? Market my invention? You could start today with a language tape or learning about the patent process.

What are your forbidden fruits? Sometimes we tell ourselves that certain things are off limits, when really, it’s just a mirage created by our limiting beliefs. What seems off-limits to you but might be great fun if it weren’t “forbidden” in your mind? Maybe it’s a God whisper asking you to play a little bigger……  Acting in a play? Buying a telescope? Writing a book?

THE SECOND THING

Once you are firmly pointed in the direction of your own bigness, you will undoubtedly meet the second thing about being big. As any hero will tell you, once you start heading in the direction of being big…once you take action toward your goals…the second thing undoubtedly shows up. And that thing is fear.

Here’s the secret about being big: you still get the socks scared off you on a regular basis. (Perhaps even more often!) But it no longer stops you. Spooks you, yes absolutely. Makes your knees go weak, without a doubt.  But when you’re living big and having faith, fear ceases to be a reason to quit.

Because you’ve got big things you want to do with that little hyphen of yours.

So I ask you are you living big? What does that even mean to you? For me it means helping as many women as possible live their perfectly balanced dream life full of faith while living mine as well! Are you next on my list?

 Until next time here’s to all your possibilities!

Southern sweetheart Entrepreneur Dixie McDaniel de Andrade is a speaker who delivers a powerful punch providing inspiration and how-to solutions to women of faith. As an author, certified coach and life/balance expert, she founded international coaching company Envision Possibilities to teach other women to stop settling, balance their unique lives, take action on their dreams all while honoring their own family values!  Dixie is a world-class trainer; having begun her career in international development with the World Bank and spending over a decade working in training and development with multi-national non-profits and governments, speaking and training international audiences from over 100 countries. She speaks Spanish with a southern twang, holds a MA in International Communication, is mom to twin boys age 5, wife to her fun Ecuadorian husband, Co-President of Femfessionals Miami and  loves to volunteer with non-profits she holds dear. Find her on Facebook at Envision Possibilities and Twitter @CoachDixie

 

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Creating What You Want In Life

We all wish to live the life we really want. If that’s the case, why does it seem that so few of us actually do?

Creating the life we want should be easy, but for many reasons it isn’t. Sometimes we’redaisy too busy working, paying bills or picking up kids to give it much thought. Sometimes we don’t know how to get clarity so we put it off until “later.” Or, perhaps, we have ignored what we really wanted and, instead, created a life that others wanted for us (or themselves) — ouch.

How to Create the Life You Want

If you aren’t living the life you want, how do you get back on track? How do you get clear on what you want? And how do you stay committed to it?

Here are some steps that can help you get started:

Clarity
Before getting what we want we must first know what that is. This may seem obvious but it trips up even the most intelligent people right out of the gate. Take out a blank sheet of paper and write “My Dream Life” at the top. List everything you want to have, do, be and share. From this list generate goals to help set you back on course. (if you ever work with me you will hear me say this a lot “write it down, write it down, write it down” it helps I promise)

Avoid the “Shiny New Object Syndrome”
It’s easy to lose momentum by getting distracted with new, exciting opportunities. Having clarity makes it easier to distinguish those opportunities that help move us forward from the ones that throw us off track.

The next time a new opportunity arises ask yourself, “How will this help me achieve my ultimate goal of “x”? If it doesn’t, you probably want to dismiss the opportunity and move on.

Redefine Failure
People who focus on the destination as opposed to the journey also tend to be more critical of their failures. When you enjoy the process along the way, it’s easier to appreciate the end result — whether you consider it a “success” or “failure.”

The next time you do experience failure, however, reframe it. Consider that you have just learned how not to do something, and then acknowledge yourself for what you’ve learned.

Give in to Your Primal Instincts
Craving new challenges is hard-wired into our DNA. If it weren’t, we never would have invented the wheel, created electricity or flown to outer space. Ignoring this primal code over the long term can lead to disappointment. So how do you happily succumb to this urge? With more clarity and structure.

Create a list of things you haven’t done yet, but want to do. Be specific and remember the three, guaranteed “no fail” rules when it comes to goal setting:

1. Write it down. 2. Write it down. 3. Write it down.

Putting your list in writing transforms it from a desire into a personal contract with yourself.

Go Guilt-Free
Taking time to care for ourselves, guilt-free, is difficult for many women. Sometimes it feels as though things will fall off the rails if we “let go.” But when we do let go, something amazing happens: the earth still spins — people find a way to manage without us. Taking time off leaves us feeling refreshed and makes us better workers, parents, spouses and citizens. (think of the song from the movie Frozen “ Let it Go” and sing it over and over if you have to….you are probably going to anyway now that I put the thought into your head… sorry : )

Plus, going guilt-free can be contagious.

As with anything worthwhile, there is no quick fix when it comes to designing and building the life you want. However, it is my hope that these steps can help guide you along your path to living the life you want…and loving the life you live.

Until next time here’s to all your Possibilities!

Southern sweetheart Entrepreneur Dixie McDaniel de Andrade is a speaker who delivers a powerful punch providing inspiration and how-to solutions to women of faith. As an author, certified coach and life/balance expert, she founded international coaching company Envision Possibilities to teach other women to stop settling, balance their unique lives, take action on their dreams all while honoring their own family values!  Dixie is a world-class trainer; having begun her career in international development with the World Bank and spending over a decade working in training and development with multi-national non-profits and governments, speaking and training international audiences from over 100 countries. She speaks Spanish with a southern twang, holds a MA in International Communication, is mom to twin boys age 5, wife to her fun Ecuadorian husband, Co-President of Femfessionals Miami and  loves to volunteer with non-profits she holds dear. Find her on Facebook at Envision Possibilities and Twitter @CoachDixie

 

 

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Self-Quiz: Are You “Too Busy”?

beach ameliaTime is the great equalizer. Everybody gets the same amount: 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour. We can’t save time or accumulate or rearrange it. We can’t turn it off or on. It can’t be replaced.

 But these days, it seems as if the lament of not having enough time has become a national anthem. Everywhere people find themselves constantly in a rush, over-booked and over-scheduled with no time off. Life is accompanied by the ongoing stress of not enough time. And sometimes doing too much and being too busy can be a way of forgetting yourself.

 

 Though it may not always seem so, how we fill our time and how we spend it is our choice. Answer the following questions to discover if you’re caught up in the “too-busy” cycle. 

 

  1. I constantly find myself doing “urgent” things and trying to catch up.
  2. I allow myself to drift into obligations when I don’t know how much time or energy they’ll require.
  3. I find myself running from when I get up in the morning until I go to bed at night. I’m always tired and never feel like I accomplished enough.
  4. I seldom schedule a day off for myself and when I do, I tend to fill it with activities.
  5. I don’t make time for “self-care” activities: physical exercise, nurturing or “pampering” myself, cultural stimulation, spiritual well-being, learning something new, playing, or simply doing nothing.
  6. I seldom have time to do the things I really love.
  7. My work and project areas are cluttered with “I’ll look at this later” stacks and “to-do” piles.
  8. I often miscalculate how long certain activities will take.
  9. I often miss deadlines or work long hours to meet a deadline.
  10. I respond to interruptions such as phone calls, faxes, email, beepers and pagers, and allow them to take me off track.
  11. I try to keep things in my head rather than making lists. If I do make a daily “to-do” list, it’s impossible to complete in a day.
  12. I tend to move from one urgent thing to the next, rather than working toward specific goals and objectives.
  13. I find myself constantly wishing I had more time or projecting an imaginary future when I have more time, making comments such as “as soon as…” or “next year…”
  14. I spend time running errands and rushing because I didn’t plan well enough.
  15. I spend time doing things I could pay someone else to do.
  16. I often do things because I “should,” or continue to do things that no longer fit who I am.
  17. Other people complain that my schedule doesn’t allow enough time for them.

 

I hope you will write out your answers and really take a look at where you want to make some changes and where you are happy. I think this will help you take back your time and live the life of your dreams and as always I am always here to help. Here’s to all your possibilities!

 

Southern sweetheart Entrepreneur Dixie McDaniel de Andrade is a speaker who delivers a powerful punch providing inspiration and how-to solutions to women of faith. As an author, certified coach and life/balance expert, she founded international coaching company Envision Possibilities to teach other women to stop settling, balance their unique lives, take action on their dreams all while honoring their own family values!  Dixie is a world-class trainer; having begun her career in international development with the World Bank and spending over a decade working in training and development with multi-national non-profits and governments, speaking and training international audiences from over 100 countries. She speaks Spanish with a southern twang, holds a MA in International Communication, is mom to twin boys age 5, wife to her fun Ecuadorian husband, Co-President of Femfessionals Miami and  loves to volunteer with non-profits she holds dear. Find her on Facebook at Envision Possibilities and Twitter @CoachDixie

 

 

 

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