Italy or Holland?! The journey of life

Life has a way of changing directions even when we don’t see it coming. That’s just the way it is and WE have the choice of how we will deal with the changes. My biggest passion in the world is to help amazing moms live their dreams as only they can and sometimes that is helping them deal with change! Have you ever had to deal with change in your life, how did you handle it?

I came across this work by Emily Perl Kingsley  (thanks to my friend Mindy at )  and since I have special needs children it seemed fitting to share how change happens and how we have a choice when dealing mission in lifewith it……

Emily Perl Kingsley.
(excerpt from)c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability – to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It’s like this……

When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous vacation trip – to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian.

It’s all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, “Welcome to Holland.”

“Holland?!?” you say. “What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I’m supposed to be in Italy. All my life I’ve dreamed of going to Italy.”

But there’s been a change in the flight plan. They’ve landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven’t taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It’s just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It’s just a different place. It’s slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around…. and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills….and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy… and they’re all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say “Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That’s what I had planned.”

But God had different plans.

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away… because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.

And God understands this too…

But… if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things … about Holland.

What is your Holland? Maybe it’s a child with a disability or maybe it’s that you can’t have children that you desperately want, maybe it’s the loss of a job or a dream, maybe it’s the sudden death of someone close to you, maybe it’s a cross country move or divorce or finances or an illness or a big decision you just don’t know how to make ….somewhere along the way we all have a “Holland”  (big or small) but God always has us in his arms and it’s what you choose to do with your “Holland” that is most important.

My prayer for you as you make the choices that God is whispering on your heart that you do it with grace and put your own style on it and you make the choices (no matter the circumstances) that will make you happy…. that will help YOU feel fulfilled.

We all have disappointments in life and setbacks and believe me I know that it is hard but it’s how you choose to interpret them that makes your true mark on the world.

The article says “there we must stay” but I believe we all get to Italy eventually but Holland is beautiful too.

So here’s to all your Possibilities!

Until Next Time…….

Southern sweetheart Entrepreneur Dixie McDaniel de Andrade is a speaker who delivers a powerful punch providing inspiration, and how-to solutions to moms of faith. As an author and certified Christian life coach, she founded international coaching company Envision Possibilities to teach other moms to stop settling, tailor make their lives, take action on their dreams all while honoring their own family values! She is happily married to her Ecuadorian husband and they have identical twin boys (who just happen to have autism.) Dixie is a world-class trainer; having begun her career in international development with the World Bank and spending over a decade working in training and development with multi-national non-profits and governments, speaking and training international audiences from over 100 countries. Envision Possibilities is in business to help Moms worldwide find balance, make money, start their own endeavors (if that’s their heart’s desire), and to live happily through faith. Connect with her on Facebook at Envision Possibilities or Twitter @CoachDixie and sign up for her newsletter on our home page.

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