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Welcome, busy, smart mom. I’m so happy you are here! Come in and let’s get to know one another. Have you ever looked around your life and wondered, “is this it?” And then felt a little guilty for even thinking that? Because you know your life is great and God has wonderfully blessed you but you still feel like there is something more (or something missing?).

If you’ve ever felt this way – even for a second – I want you to know you are not alone…I understand and I get you. As a mom, friend, wife, sister, executive, entrepreneur, dreamer and faith seeker – -I’m blessed, too — and yet I sometimes ask “is this it?”

We’re responsible for so much: planned days get shoved aside because of all the hats we wear, our kids need to be picked up, dropped off, fed, changed, helped with homework, taught values, read to, put to bed, disciplined, and the list goes on. Our spouses need us to run errands, pay bills, cook dinner, do laundry and talk to them, What?? Talk, who has time to communicate!! We need to concentrate on work. Our volunteer organizations need us to help just a “little” more. Our friends need some quality time with us and an ear to listen. So what about you what do you need?

Some days I’ve got this life balance thing down pat and I’m living my dreams and managing my time well and others I’m reaching for something higher. I believe we can all have our beautiful life and Envision all of our Possibilities, I believe you can start your own business, ministry, blog or whatever God is calling you to do….let’s take that time here on these pages together and may you live the life you have always dreamed…..  right now today!

Ecuadorian Ceviche for Thanksgiving

Ecuadorian Ceviche

 Usually if you come over to my Envision Possibilities blog I am  trying to inspire you to live your best life NOW while practicing your balancing act so today since the holidays are approaching as a busy mom I thought it would be fun to share a great family recipe that is fun, easy and perfect for the woman on the go and the holidays …..not to mention so many people have asked me about this recipe so I wanted to share! 

My household is southern by way of myself from Georgia and Latin by way of my husband from Ecuador and our children are a mix! So today I’m sharing an Ecuadorian Shrimp Ceviche recipe (with a southern twist) that my husband’s family taught me. This recipe can be made the night before and left in the refrig so if your week is busy which I know we usually all have busy weeks you can mix it up Sunday eat some right away and it will be perfect for Monday too!  Or if you have to take a dish to the Thanksgiving meal mix this up on Wednesday and you will be set!

Keep in mind…. I learned this recipe from my husband’s family BUT  I added my own twist and I don’t really measure anything….. I taste it as I go to make it my own….. so spice yours up the way your family likes as well! Also this is not your typical ceviche recipe nor  is it the typical Peruvian cuisine it’s a flavor all its own.shrimp2 pounds of medium boiled shrimp or depending on the number of people you want to serve ( you want about 5 to 7 shrimp per person) peeled, and deveined…. let cool…. (added tip:   do as I do and buy them from Publix (or your grocery store)  already cooked, peeled, deveined and cooled….so much faster and easier : ) Continue reading

Are You Putting On Your Own Oxygen Mask First?

 Self-Quiz: Are You “Too Busy”?

The question I get asked most in my business is: “how can I find more time?” The question I want to ask is: “Well, are you putting on your own Oxygen mask first?”  When I do, I usually get a blank stare…….read on to find out how to take care of your time and you!

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Time is the great equalizer. Everybody gets the same amount: 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour. We can’t save time or accumulate or rearrange it. We can’t turn it off or on. It can’t be replaced.

 But these days, it seems as if the lament of not having enough time has become a national anthem. Everywhere people find themselves constantly in a rush, over-booked and over-scheduled with no time off. Life is accompanied by the ongoing stress of not enough time. And sometimes doing too much and being too busy can be a way of forgetting yourself.

  Though it may not always seem so, how we fill our time and how we spend it is our choice. Answer the following questions to discover if you’re caught up in the “too-busy” cycle. 

 I constantly find myself doing “urgent” things and trying to catch up.

  1. I allow myself to drift into obligations when I don’t know how much time or energy they’ll require.
  2. I find myself running from when I get up in the morning until I go to bed at night. I’m always tired and never feel like I accomplished enough.
  3. I seldom schedule a day off for myself and when I do, I tend to fill it with activities.
  4. I don’t make time for “self-care” activities: physical exercise, nurturing or “pampering” myself, cultural stimulation, spiritual well-being, learning something new, playing, or simply doing nothing. Continue reading

Is It Ever Good to Feel Guilty?

I hope you will enjoy this guest post from my friend and fellow Author Britta Lafont…….her fabulous book Prodigal Confessions: 10 Principles That Lead Us Back to the Father can now be purchased at Amazon see the link below.

I think we as women feel a lot of guilt in different ways, and it is my hope this guest post will help you spiritually move past your guilt and move closer to our Father…..after all this blog is all about balance, faith and living your dreams…..so guilt has no place here ladies!

Here’s to all your possibilities!

“Guilt without repentance stunts spiritual growth.”
– Prodigal Confessions: 10 Principles That Lead Us Back to the Father

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Even though we want to please God, we can find ourselves failing again and again. And we really want to get along with other people, but we may find them rubbing us the wrong way.  Some press our buttons.  Some take us for granted.  Our feelings can rise up against the very people that God calls us to love.

Some days our to do-lists are too long.  These days can feel filled-up, fast-paced, and frantic.  In the midst of all this striving, we can become so involved with chasing our personal goals, that we miss God’s bigger plan for us.  Some days we find ourselves serving our to-do lists, instead of loving God above all else.

We were made for so much more.

God created us with a wonderful purpose in mind: to carry the message of His love and mercy to the world.  But before we can share it, we must experience it ourselves.

God says, “I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love.
With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself” (Jeremiah 31:3, NLT).

God is a generous Father!  According to scripture:

The Lord is compassionate and merciful,
slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.
He will not constantly accuse us,
nor remain angry forever.
He does not punish us for all our sins;
he does not deal harshly with us, as we deserve.
For his unfailing love toward those who fear him
is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth.
He has removed our sins as far from us
as the east is from the west.
The Lord is like a father to his children,
tender and compassionate to those who fear him.
For he knows how weak we are;
he remembers we are only dust.
(Psalm 103:8-14).

When we sin (when we fail to do what God calls us to do) the Holy Spirit convicts us in order to: (1) to teach us and (2) to provoke our repentance.  To repent is to turn around, turn back to God, recognize that His way is the right way, and pursue it.  Repentance leads us to peace.

But not every guilty feeling leads us to repentance.  Feeling guilty without repenting keeps us in a broken place of disobedience.  Feeling guilty after we have repented overlooks the forgiveness that Jesus died to purchase for us.

God doesn’t want us to feel guilty; guilt is a cheap substitute for repentance. Continue reading

God, Where is My Burning Bush?

Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see-and without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him. ~ Hebrews 11:1-6 (NIV))

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You need to write a book.

Was there anyone else in the room? No one there but me. I must be going a little crazy!

You really need to write a book.

There it was again. I was writing an outline for a speech for a group of soon to be  mompreneurs and I kept hearing this over and over.      I am not a writer. I am a talker and an International communication major. Ask anyone who knows me; I love to talk! I tried to ignore it, like a mosquito buzzing around your ear. It wouldn’t leave. It drove me to my knees.

“God, you know how you sent a burning bush to talk to Moses? I’m going to need that burning bush to appear any moment now if you want me to write a book!”

That was a pretty bold challenge. Sometimes when a dream is put on our heart, and we do not know if it is God we are hearing, a talking, burning bush might be a nice addition. I have a feeling that it would scare the living daylights out of me, too!

If you are not familiar with the story of Moses and the burning bush, God sent a burning bush to Moses to speak directly to him and to give him instructions to follow him in faith. (Exodus 3)

If you are not sure about God, and are questioning faith, I hope you will find comfort in knowing that you are not alone. God doesn’t send a burning bush anymore, but he does put his calling on our hearts. Sometimes it can be so frustrating to quiet all the static and know that this is the word from God uniquely for you. Continue reading

What I learned from Winnie the Pooh About Life

Today I just needed some wisdom from my old friend Winne the Pooh….maybe you do too! It’s an awesome feeling to reconnect with childlike innocence.

 Growing up I learned a lot from Winnie the Pooh, though I didn’t really know these were life lessons until I was older. I hope my children will also absorb some of these life lessons to live happy, fulfilled and balanced! That’s my wish for you as well.

 The Wisdom of Winnie the Pooh

 Wisdom comes to us from many sources—sometimes from the mouths of babes.autumn road winnie

Although originally written as stories to read to his young son, Christopher Robin,  A. A. Milne’s series on Winnie and his friends who lived in the forest offer enlightenment for adults–especially in this hectic, modern world in which we live.

Each character’s personality reflects for the reader a unique view of the world: Owl through his quest for knowledge. Eeyore as an unrelenting pessimist. We learn about bravery from Piglet and the need to believe in ourselves from Tigger. Winnie the Pooh, as described by Milne, might be a bear with “very little brain” but he has an abundance of wisdom and spouts insightful truths. Here are some:

On believing in yourself:

 “Promise me you’ll always Remember: You’re BRAVER than you believe; And STRONGER than you seem; And SMARTER than you think.” Continue reading

What Is Life Balance?

This IS balance

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I’m not crazy……sometimes balance is dirty dishes……. that just need to wait!

These days society places way too much emphasis on the words “life balance.”

The thing is your life balance is not mine and vice versa it’s not a one size fits all…..

So back to the dirty dishes….why you ask are they a symbol of a beautiful life?

Because maybe that mom cooked a great healthy meal and then left the dishes

to help with homework,

have a great conversation with her spouse,

have some “me” time,

maybe she left them to go out for some girlfriend time,

it doesn’t really matter, the point is the dishes will get done and even if it’s not right now she’s living her balanced beautiful life her way and she’s giving herself grace to get to the dishes when she gets to them!

What if you reframed your thoughts of what balance means to you?

So your balanced days can’t always look like this:

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But who says it has to? Continue reading

It’s Almost Christmas!! What?!

 I love summer, smell the fresh cut grass, feel the warm sunshine and an ocean breeze on your face, see all the children running carefree, yes summer is a magical time. July also heralds in the middle of the year-yes that’s 6 more months until Christmas-where does the time go? We are at the half way mark.

How are you doing with the promises you made yourself at the beginning of the year?

Are you:beach amelia

  1. Right on schedule
  2. Lagging behind or
  3. Don’t even want to talk about it

 If you find yourself stuck on b or c don’t fret and don’t beat yourself up. You still have plenty of time to get back on track and come December 31st you will be patting yourself on the back and feeling very accomplished.

 So let’s finish the year strong here’s how:

 1.Get Your Vision Back In Focus: Every day we face many, many choices as faithful busy women and moms, so get back to basing your choices on what makes you feel happy and free rather than how you think an ideal life should look. Say a prayer and listen to what you are hearing.   Did you make a vision board back in January? Make sure you are looking at it each day  BUT  right about now if you are rolling your eyes at me and thinking that doesn’t work, I understand. The vision board itself does not change your life, but what does change your way of thinking is the process of focusing on the images you choose and how they could impact your future. Most of the times these images will stick with you and start helping you steer your choices in that direction. Before you know it your vision is becoming your reality because of the choices you have made to positively impact you and your family.

2.Let It Go:  Did you just cringe because I reminded you on the song from Frozen? Good, every time you think of that song remember these next words. You must let go of what is no longer working for you! These things can include a volunteer obligation, a family/friend obligation (that’s really not THAT important don’t slack on the important ones that could get you in trouble!) a chore that someone else can do or that you can reasonably outsource, bad habits, old grudges, you get the picture…. we are all holding onto something that we REALLY don’t need to.  Think about your own obligations and see what you may try giving up to finish the year your way, pay attention to the joy it brings you to let it go. Inhale, exhale..Think and let it go!

3.Don’t be afraid to fail: Have you longed to try something new?  Maybe switch careers start a business, learn a new skill or language….people that worry about mistakes paralyze themselves into not DOING! Success is built on failure; think about the story of Vera Wang she was a competitive figure skater in her youth who failed to make the 1968 US Olympic figure skating team. This prompted her to take a job as an assistant at Vogue in 1971, she then was promoted to senior fashion editor, within in a year of working there, but after 15 years of service to the magazine she was passed over for editor-in-chief of the publication. Now women can hardly think of wedding attire without her name coming up and her fashion is legendary.

             “The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.”  ~Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

4. Pay Attention: We tell our children this all the time, but how well do we really pay attention to what matters to us? Do you tend to think about others priorities when you make your decisions? Try to untangle yourself from that action to know what is important to you. People will constantly tell you that their own “code-red” takes priority. Your life balance is yours this last half of the year if you pay attention, but only if you acknowledge this fact: your life balance is unique to you and belongs to you and no one else!

So get out there and enjoy the rest of your summer. Spend time laughing with friends and family, chase fireflies with your kids, read a good book for fun, catch a few rays, dig your toes in the sand whatever makes you happy indulge and finish the year STRONG!

You can do it, I believe in you!

Here’s to all your Possibilities!

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Envision Possibilities helps smart moms live their life’s purpose with balance, grace and faith. Founder and CEO Dixie McDaniel de Andrade is a mother of special need twins whose husband travels extensively for work. She lives far from family, exercises daily (well tries to anyway), carpools, cooks, rarely cleans and juggles it all with a smile and a sense of humor! Her belief is you can do it too! With Envision Possibilities her intent is to help you live your dreams with balance NOW rather than slipping into the “when/then” syndrome. Through workshops, speaking and life coaching she teaches from Ecclesiastes 11: 4,6  – If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done…Be sure to stay busy and plant a variety of crops, for you never know which will grow — perhaps they all will.